Watch Your Language!

  You have nothing to lose. This simple phrase is intended to motivate: “Why not get out there and try? You have nothing to lose.” Yet, this phrase actually masquerades as positive. These are heavy words. They don’t belong in an encouraging space. You deserve better. How can you take heavy phrases like this and turn them into powerful mantras…

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Discovering Your Punctuation Personality

    Punctuation is part of the personality of writing, and that same idea overlaps into our identity. When you think about the punctuation mark you most embody, what comes to mind? For me, I connect with a question mark. I’m a natural learner with a curious mind. I find it exciting to unravel new realities about myself and the…

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Four-Way Stops: When is it Your Turn?

I’m sure you have found yourself at a four-way stop before. You’re cruising down the road completely in control until you slowly wind down to that sudden… stop. What happens next? The rules of the four-way stop often seem to fly out the window, especially when you’re faced with three other drivers all wondering the same thing. Did I get…

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“Hand-Me-Up” those Cell Phones, Laptops, Jeans, and Sweaters

  • Post category:Decisions

  A client mentioned that her daughter cracked her iPhone screen, and used that as a reason to upgrade to a brand new phone. Instead of fixing it, she wanted a better camera—some of those fancy new features sounded so enticing. Enter mom, who, while no longer springing for her daughter’s new phones, was still paying for the family plan and…

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Do Not Be Scared To Think

If you experience any of the following, you are ready to talk with a Life Coach: ✔️You find yourself on the sidelines watching others succeed ✔️Your thoughts limit your ability to take actionable steps ✔️You are moving along in life with no set intention ✔️You don’t stop to focus on what you need right now ✔️You get in your own…

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The Ripple Effect

  When the pandemic hit, people moved out of the city. One effect of that exodus was that Broadway actors lost their jobs. But what about the ripple effect that their leaving had? What about the dishwasher in the restaurant where Patti LuPone bought her coffee? Or the manicurist Audra McDonald visited regularly? What about the people who worked in…

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Jumpstart Your Empty Nest Transition

  For years, have you put yourself on the back burner while you raised your children? When your children become less dependent on you, what will your new normal look like? 𝐺𝑒𝑡 “𝑇ℎ𝑒 𝑇𝑜𝑝 10 𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑌𝑜𝑢 𝐶𝑎𝑛 𝐷𝑜 𝑅𝐼𝐺𝐻𝑇 𝑁𝑂𝑊 𝑇𝑜 𝐽𝑢𝑚𝑝𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝐸𝑚𝑝𝑡𝑦 𝑁𝑒𝑠𝑡 𝑇𝑟𝑎𝑛𝑠𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛” 𝑓𝑟𝑒𝑒 𝑒-𝑏𝑜𝑜𝑘: https://marciesinger.com/top-ten-things-e-book/ This book was written for you to give you some…

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Treat Yourself as You Would a Good Friend

  “Treat yourself as you would a good friend.” Look up the definition of self-care, and you will find this quote. If your friend was struggling, you would be kind, understanding, and compassionate. Don’t treat yourself any differently. While studies show that people fear if they are too soft on themselves they will become self-indulgent, the opposite is actually true.…

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Spiritual Concierge

  Sage burning and full-moon intention ceremonies? Hypnotherapy and shaman healing? The trend in some high-end New York City residences is to offer a full menu of spiritual concierge services.  While most of the offerings may be a tad too esoteric for the typical Empty Nester that I usually work with, one option from the menu makes a lot of…

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The Coach gets Coached

    When my new friend, Osarague, invited me to go LIVE on her Instagram page, I froze in my shoes. How could I go live? Open myself up to criticism? Be vulnerable? What if people asked me questions that I couldn’t answer? What if I didn’t come across like a coach women would trust and want to work with?…

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Focusing On My To-be List

   Reprinted from CrunchyTales.com, #mymidlife I remember when my first child left for college. A few days later, I was unloading the dishwasher and suddenly this whoosh of emptiness came upon me. For years his life meshed with mine and then, suddenly, that whole chapter closed. He had been a huge part of my daily routine for so long: and as a minivan…

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Summer Poem: Part 1

    Hello Summer, Goodbye isolation. Over a year since we shut our doors. How quickly the calendar pages turned. The longest winter, and yet, still so fast. The bright warmth of the sun has returned, soothing even the roughest patch. Now, a new kind of assurance. We feel protected from head to toe, as we apply SPF to our…

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Another Brick in the Wall

  There is strength in numbers. We have all heard that. I stopped recently to think about just what that meant.  No doubt, there has been a time in all of our lives when we may have felt weak or powerless as just one person, going up against a force--whether that force was a challenging task, a difficult transition, or…

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Fix-it List

  • Post category:Goals

Don't you just love a good neighborhood hardware store?   You walk in with your goal/challenge, and look for someone who will listen. You trust them to work with you, find the right aisle, the right paint color, the right knob. Boom. They direct you to the exact location you need to go to solve your current project or challenge.…

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What Hat Are You Wearing Now?

    What hat are you wearing right now? When our kids were little, sometimes it felt like we wore the hats of the short-order cook, the chauffeur, and the nurse. As they grew, some of us put on our coach’s hat, later our college-application-essay editor’s hat, and later still, our resume editor's hat and wardrobe consultant's hat. During a…

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Hello Spring, I’ve Been Ready

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Photo: designtwins.com   Hello Spring, I’ve been ready Quiet, dull winter behind us Breathtaking glossy icicles have detached from the house Melting snow nourishing the grass for growth Perpetual, daily gray mornings take a hike Brighter morning sun, brighter outlook Spring ahead that clock into lightness Uncover the outdoor furniture, shed that heavy clothing Black athleisure wear change-up to tie-dyes,…

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Perspective

  • Post category:Awareness

  Did you hear the story last year about the monolith that appeared and disappeared in the Utah desert? While at first many believed it to be aliens, the logical answer was that it was an artistic installation. We may chalk it up to another wacky incident during a unique year, but if we dig a little deeper we can…

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A Dream House

  • Post category:Visioning

“This could be it!”   Those were the words my husband shouted 28 years ago when, after two exhausting years of house-hunting, we saw this house. I stared at the dilapidated ranch with its overgrown bushes and yellow lead paint siding.  As I recall, my immediate reaction was something along the lines of….WTF!!!  I couldn’t see past the trees (literally). …

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Sign Language: Or How to Avoid Getting Stuck Between a Rock and a Hard Place

  This is a story of a rocky road, a journey, and new beginnings. You can’t tell by looking at this photograph of me, but this was not the idyllic, scenic journey it appears to be.  I was actually caught between a literal rock and a hard place. The day started out reasonably. Nice, even. I was hiking on the…

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Hello, I am your coach

  • Post category:Coaching

Hello! I am your coach. I look forward to getting to know you–to watching you grow and mature. Together, we will get you thinking about the empty nest either looming before you or the one you are already living in. What does that ideal nest feel like? What do you think you need to do right now to get to…

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Bridging to our future

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Hello from the Governor Mario M. Cuomo Bridge (Tappan Zee Bridge). During the pandemic, we are doing things differently. It’s like this whole COVID experience is a bridge from our old lives into our new. Family game night. Cooking together. Slowing down and going for walks after dinner. Sleeping later. What experiences and philosophies will you try to keep alive…

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2021….Are you Ready?

Photo Credit: WalnutKitchen.ca 2021...I am ready. Winter pots planted with evergreens will stand guard at my door this winter. Brave and strong. Outdoor hoses removed and drained. Cushioned chairs covered. Deer proof bulbs are planted for Spring. Wilted annuals removed. My hallway foyer is open to all that lands on my stoop. An Amazon package, a neighbor who offers help,…

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The Power of the Shower

You’ve heard of the terms “cold shower,” “bridal shower,” and “sun shower,” but have you ever heard of “shower thoughts?" Shower thoughts are the thoughts that pop into your mind while doing something mundane, like, well, taking a shower, planting a flower pot, or driving. They're the little “aha” moments that occur when you are occupied doing one thing, and…

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Why Do I Need a Shacket?

What the heck is a “shacket” anyway? And how did I get this far in life without knowing that I “needed” one. My inbox is filled with ads from Nordstrom and Banana Republic telling me that I MUST have this MUST-have trend of the season. What do you think about something that is trying to be a “jill-of-all-trades?” Do you…

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What Apple Cart?

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  During a time when so many are facing change, it is important to keep in mind that variety is truly the spice of life and embracing change can open your mind to new ideas and experiences. If you were to eat a Red Delicious every day you would eventually become bored of them, right? With so many apple choices…

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Think Like a Squirrel and Reach Your Goals

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Watching those videos of squirrels performing death-defying gymnastic feats can be mesmerizing.  One favorite shows a man setting up an elaborate obstacle course for the local squirrels. After a minor learning curve, they master the course and achieve the reward–the elusive bird feeder. Squirrels stop at nothing to reach their goals. You can be like a squirrel! Aware and determined,…

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Judging or dirty windows?

  • Post category:Awareness

What happens when we are too quick to pass judgment on others? When we judge, we create a story around an event, situation, person or experience we believe to be true. Often, we see what we expect to see, and sometimes, what we think we see is not the truth at all. This sage advice reminds me of a story…

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Fall is Knocking At Your Door

Photo Credit: Laurey W. Glenn   My front door is closed right now, but I’m ready for what comes next. With the new season–the crisp leaves, the fresh notebooks–comes a sense of excitement and expectancy. Something new. We are ready for the change of season, and whatever it may bring. Flower pots replanted. Mums. Gourds. Muted seasonal colors. It’s a…

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Can Candy Help During “Big and Scary” Transitions?

  • Post category:Transitions

I fondly remember Halloween with my kids. On October 31, we would walk through the neighborhood together as a family, greeting all the other families doing the same. The only question was which street to visit next, and how do we get to that house who gives out those full size candy bars before they run out. It was also…

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When You Don’t Know How You Know

  • Post category:Intuition

It's my birthday week so I got to thinking about my own children... “Hold on a second, there might be another one!” What would you think if your obstetrician, after a moment of silence during a sonogram, says this out loud???? You might be thinking any combination of thoughts: This is not what I signed up for! My car isn’t…

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Can you keep a secret?

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Can you keep a secret? I can. As a coach, I treat confidentiality like an attorney or a doctor. A recent New York Times article about overhearing conversations outside a Trader Joe's on the Upper West Side during the pandemic got me thinking about how different people in different situations might use the information they hear. In coaching, confidentiality is…

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Those shoes may not fit anymore

  • Post category:Resilience

Do you cringe when someone asks you what are you up to? Have you lost part of your identity while seeing to the needs and demands of your children and household for years? You’ve changed; it’s a new normal, you may have different perspectives and skills. Are you ready to chuck those Vans checkered loafers and Steve Madden slides, and…

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The Empty Nest Really Begins in Kindergarten

  • Post category:Awareness

A rerun of Grey’s Anatomy got me thinking.  It was a scene with Dr. Bailey furiously scrubbing a microwave oven while telling Chief Webber that dropping her son off at the first day of kindergarten left her feeling inadequate and empty. “He let go of my hand,” she said. She felt like she wasn’t needed anymore. Bailey feels like everyone…

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Can you say nonagenarian?

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This past week, my mother turned 95. She has taught me many things over the years, but one tidbit especially apropos right now is this: Stressing about something makes it doubly hard. You have the uncomfortable feeling of stress on top of still having to do the onerous task. “If you stress too much about something before it happens, you…

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The Power is in the Pause

  “Practice the pause. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you're about to react harshly and you'll avoid doing and saying things you'll later regret.” The power is in the pause. Perhaps you and your husband have been getting on each other's nerves lately being in close quarters for so long. Maybe it has to do with the…

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Refilling the Empty Nest, for Now

  • Post category:Inspiration

This week, my bearded 28-year old “baby” is moving back into the nest...well, at least for a month or so. While the pandemic is scary and has so many unknowns, there are a few upsides. Those include the ability for young adults to explore the world. Many kids who graduated college and have “launched” their lives and careers may be…

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How Can Chicken and Corn Lay the Groundwork for a Long, Fulfilled Life?

  • Post category:Mindfulness

Picture a little girl roughhousing in the yard with her dad. He tosses her in the air then leaves her to start the lawn mower and tackle the backyard chores. Soon he’ll be rehydrating from the garden hose and deciding what time to fire up the grill for their healthy chicken and corn dinner. After the barbecue, they will test…

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That AHA moment

AHA! “I get it!” “I know what I have to do next.” There is nothing better than witnessing my client reach that clarity at the end of a session. That "AHA" moment. Find YOUR clarity. Get unstuck. Break through. Release your tension. Unshrug your shoulders and relax. You are now on your way to realizing your goals; to release that…

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Pivoting

  • Post category:Resilience

Resilience. It’s what keeps us strong. Keeps us going. One of the buzzwords of 2020 is “pivot.” Pivoting is the ability to cope with unexpected circumstances and continue to find a way to let the good things shine. Sounds easy, but it isn’t always. It doesn’t just “happen,” it’s something we have to work on consciously. The ability to pivot…

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Just Call Me Jerry

  • Post category:Awareness

Fear, if you allow it, can paralyze you.  In my case, it had to do with fear of not knowing what to write. You see, I launched this new space. My blog. And I was so proud of it. I wrote my first post, and shared about its creation on social media. I smiled as the well wishers sent good…

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Father’s Day

To say the pandemic has upended most of our lives is an understatement. But through it all, what we value can remain strong. Values help us define who we are at our core. For example, connection is extremely important, and social distancing can impact our ability to fulfill that need. When we visited my daughter on Memorial Day, we wore…

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Coaching vs. Therapy

I spoke to a possible client today and I offered her a coaching session because she seemed blocked in her ability to define her goals. She told me that she had never had good luck with therapy. Wait, what? I wasn’t offering to be her therapist. This conversation made me realize that a lot of people might not understand exactly…

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Unpacking My Box

  • Post category:Awareness

Did you post a black box on your social media on Tuesday? I didn’t, but it was not an easy decision. I had planned to launch my new blog that same day, but that didn’t feel right. My gut said not to post anything and I followed my gut, but I wasn’t sure why. I knew that I wanted to be…

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My “Elevation” Experience

I recently attended The Elevation Experience, a week-long virtual micro course taught by Tracy Litt, a Certified Mindset Coach, Rapid Transformational Therapist, speaker and author. Tracy’s highly potent sessions are focused on practicing deep self-discovery. I found it to be a wonderful experience with an interactive, nurturing community, where I was given space to be seen, heard and loved, before, during…

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B.I.G. Opportunity

When I completed my coaching certification program last month, I was both nervous and excited about what was next. Then Covid-19 happened, and life as we knew it was turned upside down. As I was adjusting to our new world, I remembered B.I.G. (Believe, Inspire, Grow), a women’s empowerment group a dear friend had told me about late last year.…

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